True love is found nowhere

I keep on making promises that I will be more consistent and keep posting here but I have been just as inconsistent as always. Today is a post on love.

Yup, I am talking that taboo which brings fear to parents (in the Tamilian sense) and the ultimate go-to in any movie story. A lot of people have died, killed by its name, and have done deeds which even insane men will find hard to comprehend. It should be noted people are designed to fall in love so it should be at least open for discussion.

So what is so great about this love?

Here, we all know about the unconditional familial love that is present. Let us talk about the spark that comes in a boy when he sees a girl!( no point in me talking about the girl falling in love with a boy, As I know that is the stuff of movies, let's be realistic here. Update: Sorry that has actually happened to two of my friends girls do propose too.)
I have no experience to talk about it as I have never been in a head over heels love with anyone. But what is life if you don't listen and look at people around you? I have and had friends who are deeply in love, in and out of love, was in love, will be in love, love at first sight, love over coversations in fb WhatsApp,  SMS, love in a phone call, love through shared class notes, love over a single photoshopped image, friendzoned, one sided affair the whole time from either the girl or the boy and what not. So that gives me commenting rights without judging.

So why choose such a topic? why now? What is point I am trying to make?

No significant reason, and I thought love is a good enough topic. That's all to it ma, ka, pa.

And the point of this whole text will be made at the end, so you could just go there. Nothing new about it either, why such a point will be the experience I had in between.

Human beings do not like to be alone even if he says that he like to be alone. Introverted people people who recharge themselves by being alone use that energy when people are around them.  So everyone is trying to find someone suitable for them. Love is for that permanent someone.

When love comes around I have seen a lot of holding hands, incessant talking, secrecy from best friends,  resting on shoulders, sharing of stuff(food, books, clothes (yes used clothes) and other things), gifts, surprises, companionship, a partner in all things, Also love brings sleep less night, no time for friends, a constant thought of keeping in contact, need to buy gifs, remembering anniversaries, have to plan everything around them, parents have to be convinced on your decision and many more.

So all said and done why are so many people in love when it looks to be tedious. Peer pressure? All your friends have a girl friend to talk to. (That makes you someone who conforms to soceity) Companionship? Yeah as a boy to girl there are lot of things that can be easily shared with a girl than to a boy( but friendship is truer and longer with boys). So I can keep on adding more but let me stop it's a little bit of everything that makes someone fall in love.

Yeah everything is known so the point here is people fall in love only for a short period, no I am being honest here. I don't have trust in it without something binding like marriage love seems to just stop. I am stereotyping here as I can count the number of people who had lovers at college then moved on after that time. So true love is a question!

To add to the madness called love, I have seen people going to extreme ends just to spend two hours with each other. To tell you an example my friend took a flight to chennai from coimbatore to accompany his girl to nagercoil skipping lab classes ( bunking lab classes is a big achievement for engineers). This love between two random boy and girl who meet under some insane probabilities see something in each other which makes them to live for each other. Sounds crazy?

Actually love is like that, you ask someone permission to make them happy and expect them to return it to you in future. So crude so so crude!

Love to be better defined is a feeling that you have when you know you can take care of your own shit and she her's yet you are willing to spend time together.

That is my definition of love. But sue me, what do I know?

I am clear that Love is not overrated having a lover is overrated.

Set your priorities right. Life will always find a way. Maybe true love which sticks till the end.

No ma I don't have a lover and can't even comprehend the idea of having one. Girls have better things to do like eating, putting on makeup, looking good, changing the world, make a difference than trying to woo me.